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THEY LOVE ME, THEY LOVE ME NOT; I LOVE ME, I LOVE ME NOT

“Why do I and everyone I love pick people who treat us like we're nothing?” “We accept the love we think we deserve.” The Perks of Being A Wallflower A lot has been said about love in movies, novels, personal experiences and even mythology. But, do we know what love actually is? Is it a subconscious, involuntary attraction to someone, inexplicable, purely from the soul? Or is it just a chemical reaction as Sherlock says “Sentiment is a chemical defect…....your pulse: elevated; your pupils: dilated. I imagine John Watson thinks love's a mystery to me, but the chemistry is incredibly simple and very destructive.” Whatever love is, it surely is the strongest feeling and something all humans strive for in all its forms - love of parents, love of friends, love of a special someone, love of self. We all want to take some of it and give back some of it. One of the translations I recently learnt in my Spanish lesson was “Es importante poder amar: It’s important to be able to love.” If

All’s Well That Ends Well? Or Not?

A great man has said that “the heart must be fooled into thinking that everything is alright “All is well” in order to get the strength to fight tough situations”. OK, Mr. Aamir Khan aka Baba Ranchhoddas Chanchad said it in the movie 3 idiots, which brilliantly shows the pressures one goes through while adulting. It was more like “Aal izz well” and there is one whole song dedicated to this theory. You are singing it in your head already, aren’t you? Isn’t it amazing that bollywood has a song for every mood, every emotion, every person, I often wonder why we don’t have live background music playing as we go about our lives. Well, as I see it this is the “ fighter” way of trying to motivate ourselves to deal with twisted situations we often find ourselves in. Even if for a second, we feel strong enough to handle things without fear. On the other hand, you know what an ostrich does when it finds itself in grave danger? Instead of running away or saving itself, it sticks its head in the

“Move on, Let it go” - Easier said than done

There are seven sins according to Greek mythology. If you need a poetic refresher on what they are, please listen to “Satrangi Re'' from the movie Dil Se.. Sonu Nigam’s voice, A.R. Rahman’s music, and Gulzar’s lyrics are worth revisiting. While you are at it, don’t you want to watch the Chhaiyya Chhaiyya video just one more time and wonder at its brilliance? Okay, so the bollywood-fanatic in me will move to the side now and let’s talk about why I am starting this article talking about the seven deadly sins. One emotion, which is highly underrated according to me is GUILT. If a person does not feel guilt easily, or is able to move on or let go of things without a second glance, then even the seven deadly sins would not be SINS to him, but just acts. Acts, whose consequences the doer is often indifferent to.  For a person suffering with anxiety, maybe that sounds like the ideal situation, because we FEEL GUILTY FOR ALMOST EVERYTHING!  Sometimes, we end up blaming others for our m

Searching...A constant source of Happiness

  They say change is the only constant. Maybe that’s true. But, I have this very strong belief that we all like to have some constants through those changes in life. A mathematical equation often has two parts - the constant and the variable (eg. y=ax+b). Don’t roll your eyes already, I was a maths nerd in school and it’s a core part of my personality. It’s only fair that I have drawn various parallels (yes, like the lines)  between life and mathematics! My point is: we all need some things that are constant to our variable lives so that we can function continuously.  A fact often overlooked by us is that we spend the majority of our life nurturing two aspects of life: (i) our passions , and (ii) our relationships . Sometimes more time is spent on one than the other, and other times it’s the other way round. It often depends from person to person which aspect holds more prominence in their life, or maybe on luck, as to which aspect do people actually get as a relatively constant compan